Anonymous asked: Someone forgets I pay attention, sweetheart. As I've said a few times before, you're going to have to wait until July for anything further. If NZ does extradite Dotcom, they can do the same to me when and if the Feds ask. Too bad they've had to wait two and a half years, kike bitch.
I apologize for the language above, but it is left whole to show a rather ugly point.
So: My ask box is closed now.
And I’m doing something very, very, very rarely do, and my friends have been begging me to do about this whole thing since day one: meet it head on.
The above ask was sent in by my stalker. This is why my ask box remains closed.
Maybe it is time to show what stalking really is and does.
Imagine getting messages, the type of which make the above seem mild and sweet (add in sexual threats, death threats, and vows to be up to this forever), any time you have any ability for anyone to contact you.
Every day. At times multiple times a day, sometimes in a stream of messages that clog your inbox.
And when you never once address that, they start contacting your friends, your sister, your parents. Your brother in law. Your infant nephew/godson.
Threatens them consistently. Sends them packages. Sends them postcards. Look sup their private info and parade it in front of them.
For 5.5 years.
Things that thus far haven’t helped: An arrest. An international warrant. International attention. Stays in mental health facilities. Nothing deters this behavior.
Stalking is one of the crimes that takes the victim out of the equation, because of how likely it is that being in it exacerbates the situation. And if we do nothing and let the world exist like this, we are enabling a kind of malice that could threaten the very positive and at times powerful ways we exchange ideas and connect to each other.
The Internet is the wild west, and at some point the cavalry’s gotta come in, here.
The FBI has been amazing but are limited by a foreign nation’s wish to completely ignore a situation that has been proven many times over to exist.
I can only be so defiant in private while balancing the need for my and my family’s safety.
You may think, “I’ve seen her at LeakyCons, she’s not affected by this at all!” Never make an assumption by the strength someone is able to project that they are unaffected. And never assume that someone who doesn’t give her life over to something negative completely - disappear from the internet, etc - doesn’t just as much peace and justice as those whose lives lose major functions because of this activity. There is sometimes a paternalistic rise in compassion that rises to meet the level to which a person has been affected. If we start judging that way, we forget that no matter the victim and no matter the effect, the crime is the same and it must be stopped.
So there you go. A glimpse into my life.
If you wish to stand against stalking, please reblog; and as a bonus, please add your own thoughts about the necessity that a country’s law enforcement agency (in this case New Zealand’s) starts to take this seriously.
This may be the most important thing I ever reblog, and I really hope you take the time to read it.
I’ve known Melissa throughout much of this and I’ve seen the hurt and damage it has caused. I’ve seen her get not one, but HUNDREDS of highly graphic and possibly viable rape and death threats from this stalker. The notes come into every part of Melissa’s life, pretty much every day. They are both electronic and physical. They go to her family. They threaten everything about her life.
The note you see above is NOTHING compared to some that have come in.
I also get notes from this stalker. As I post this, I set myself up to get more. I send them to the FBI, as I have been instructed. The case file grows.
This has gone on for five and a half years.
It’s hard to keep silent while someone goes through this.
I hope that the stalker actually gets the medical treatment she so desperately needs. She is a danger to herself as much as anything else. I have gotten at least one letter from her that was a detailed suicide threat. She has also cut her own wrists and posted the picture online. She very, very much needs help.
I hope Melissa gets justice. She needs her life back.
And I hope this helps pave a way for more victims of online stalking to get the help and protection they need.
tobinlaughing asked: Hey! I've been following medievalpoc for a while and I'm wondering how you got started. Well, not *how*, because everyone here knows how to set up a tumblr account, but more like...was this an outlet for slow-building frustration that you just needed to do something about? Did you have a "eureka!" moment during a particular class or personal project? Was there a conversation that just struck like lightning in your brain? Apologies if this is too personal but I love anecdotes like that.
This project started as a side blog, created out of frustration that so many people of color are quite literally harassed out of Renfaires, fandoms, book clubs, SCA events, message boards and forums, because of their race.
I have a background in interdisciplinary studies and historiography/historiology, and I’ve been specializing in the concept of “retroactive erasure” since sometime in 2010, although that focus was more towards gender studies. Now, as you can imagine, important people in interdisciplinary gender studies do not like being criticized for parroting racist ideas in support of their super-enlightened gender studies theories.
When I originally coined the term, I was really shocked by the lack of specific scholarship exploring the ways in which the contributions of say, white women during the European middle ages, had been completely erased during the 19th and 20th centuries, by white male “experts” who blamed “the lack of opportunities for women at the time (the middle ages)” as a reason for the “lack of evidence” that women had in fact contributed.
It’s for this reason that in almost every humanities textbook or handout that’s come across my desk, if it touches on “prehistory”, there contains a section of “and during that time, women everywhere became subject to men, and that’s when human society started”. Now, reading that sentence, your average person educated in the United States will nod and agree vaguely without questioning it. In fact, liberal and radical feminism (*gag*) have both built their entire premise on this idea.
But if you actually think about it for more than two seconds, you’ll suddenly remember that societies other than Europe existed at that time. There are entire books about how the first wave of American feminism got the whole idea for feminism from Iroquois women of their acquaintance, who had been living with power, autonomy, and high social status for as long as they could remember. Unfortunately, those very same books completely ignore and purposely omit the first wave feminists’ openly Eugenicist positions, overt and malicious anti-Black racism, and their support to eliminate the very same civilizations and cultures that they had taken this inspiration of “gender equality” from in the first place. Add in the stress on “missionary work”, temperance movements, the entry of white women into the workforce as a “superior” influence over men of color who had previously occupied those positions…
Now, what does the culmination of all of these ideas just discussed look like?
1. the American obsession with creating ever increasing amounts of medieval-ish, Europe-ish based historical and fantasy media
2. retroactive erasure
3. “Western” or Eurocentric feminism with its foundations built on eugenics, racism, and constructions of white femininity contingent on missionary work and temperance movements
And this is coming from a fan. I have in fact read all of the ASOIAF books multiple times, including The Hedge Knight and other Dunk and Egg novellas, and watched every episode of Game of Thrones. I’ve had GoT parties, and I, along with everyone else who had read the books, positively reveled in people’s reactions to various plot points. I’m actually of the opinion that the show is LESS problematic in many ways to the novels. And I’ve actually bought the novels as gifts for other people as well.
That doesn’t invalidate the perfectly reasonable criticism that exists of both the show and the books.
Because as most fans of this particular genre can tell you, once it gets its hooks in you, it never lets go. After all, how can you resist the above, when you cut your teeth on this:
Or, god forbid, this:
And of course now, you have a better idea of both 1. how incredibly freaking old I am and 2. Just how boring, overused, and ubiquitous these kind of cultural ideas are.
But, imagine if all of that was actually put into perspective as media created by modern hands, thoughts, and ideas. Imagine if, instead, we had all seen that there are MANY ways to be Knights in Shining Armor, Princesses In Need of Rescues, Queens in Golden Crowns, Faeries and Fey Folk, Ladies in Shining Armor, or Knights of Flowers?
Maybe if we HAD, we wouldn’t have this:
And it’s my hope that soon, this will change.
1. saint maurice in full armor
5. Xiang Fei
I punched a guy bc he was making rape jokes and one of the things he said was “what’s the difference between yes and no? Nothing” so I asked him if he’d care if I punched him in the face and he said yes but I did it anyway since there’s no difference between yes and no and that’s the story of how I gave someone a bloody nose
HONESTLY: REBLOG THIS IF YOU HAVE EVER SELF HARMED IN ANY WAY, SKIPPED A MEAL ON PURPOSE, BEEN DEPRESSED, FELT ALONE IN A CROWDED ROOM, HATED YOUR BODY, HATED YOURSELF, FELT LIKE YOUR NOT GOOD ENOUGH OR BEEN TOLD YOU WERENT, CRIED YOURSELF TO SLEEP, FELT SUICIDAL OR BEEN SUICIDAL
“We are the girls with anxiety disorders, filled appointment books, five-year plans. We take ourselves very, very seriously. We are the peacemakers, the do-gooders, the givers, the savers. We are on time, overly prepared, well read, and witty, intellectually curious, always moving… We pride ourselves on getting as little sleep as possible and thrive on self-deprivation. We drink coffee, a lot of it. We are on birth control, Prozac, and multivitamins… We are relentless, judgmental with ourselves, and forgiving to others. We never want to be as passive-aggressive as our mothers, never want to marry men as uninspired as our fathers… We are the daughters of the feminists who said, “You can be anything,” and we heard, “You have to be everything.””
That last sentence.
Hit me like a ton of bricks.
Rebloging again because this is my life
minus the being on time part…
YUP (never on time, but aside from that, YUP.)
Even without the feminist mother, yes, this. This nearly every day of every year.
I know so many smart women who live that last sentence.